It’s no secret that self-confidence can have a direct effect on our lives, but did you know that feeling good about yourself can lead to better, more satisfying sex? And even more orgasms?

Multiple studies over the last 15-or-so years suggest that sexual dissatisfaction and even sexual dysfunction are related to a variety of cognitive distractions, which is a fancy term for stuff we dwell on when we should be focusing on something else. One such study, conducted in 2006 at the University of Nevada, found that women who reported higher levels of distraction during sex often also reported negative body image and overall sexual dissatisfaction. Coincidentally, men reported similar distractions, with negative body image and sexual dissatisfaction taking top billing.

This tells us that, while our plumbing and appearance are certainly different, men and women have at least one important thing in common – we aren’t super-hot on how we look and it could be getting in the way of having good sex!

So what can we do about it? Our self-esteem often is the result of years, even decades of social programming and isn’t something we can adjust and change with the flip of a switch. But there are some ways we can slowly undo all of those damaging thoughts and focus instead on treating ourselves with the same kind of love and respect we (hopefully) show our partners. Here are a few suggestions to get started:

1. Be Your Own BFF

How many times per day do you look in the mirror and find something to sneer at? Do you beeline for your thighs and call yourself a jiggle-monster? Do you check out your dick and chuckle at its size? Chances are there’s at least something that catches your eye and causes you to hurl an array of negative thoughts, feelings or blatant bad words at yourself.

Now think of your best friend. Imagine being a fly on his or her bedroom wall and watching the same scene go down. She calls herself a fat cow as she watches her reflection. He sneers with disgust as he flexes his bicep. What do you do? Our instinct might be to tell them to shut the fuck up, stop talking about themselves like that. We might even mention all of the beautiful, strong and hilarious things we love about them just for good measure.

So why not try that for yourself? When those negative feelings creep in and you’re choosing which insults to hurl at your reflection, ask yourself: “Would I let my bestie get away with that?” If the answer’s no, then it’s time to treat yourself the way you’d treat your BFF.

2. Focus on the Good

We all hate aspects of our physical selves and that’s a frank reality. Almost every body part is too fat/soft/small/whatever or too big/thick/straight/whatever and there’s nothing anyone can do to change your mind. So it’s time to bite the bullet and get over yourself.

What DO you like about yourself? (Ask a friend or a loved one if you’re feeling particularly critical.) You might think your lips are too thin or your hair is too frizzy, but have you noticed how soft your skin feels? You also might think your thighs touch too much or your arms are too skinny, but damn your ass looks good in yoga pants. Diffuse all that negative talk with reminders of the body parts and attributes that you’re proud of (and maybe even love!) and truly OWN them. The more you do it, the easier it gets – and you might feel a little better about yourself by the time you’re ready for your next bedroom encounter.

3. Get Real

This is the easiest tip because there’s literally nothing you need to do.

Your partner has eyes. Probably two of them. He or she uses those eyes to look at you and probably already noticed your big ass, knobby knees, crooked penis – whatever it is that you’re obsessing over. And there’s literally nothing you can do about it, save offering him or her a facemask or removing all light bulbs from the room. (Not recommended – safety hazard.)

Sex is raw, carnal and inelegant and there’s no amount of makeup, pillows, positions or dimmer switches that’ll prevent your partner from seeing you – all of you. That body part you hate didn’t send him or her running out the door and there’s a good chance that your partner might even grab it while you go at it. Because it’s HOT. He or she is there to do you and do you good, so get your head in the game and at least a little bit out of the self-loathing clouds so you can focus on the incredible mindful sex you’re about to have.

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As part of our commitment to our fans around the world, The Screaming O has teamed with an independent laboratory and verifier to have all of our sex toy materials tested for quality, toxicity, body-safety and authenticity. This new effort is part of an education campaign designed to keep shoppers informed about the materials we use in our products and promote responsible manufacturing and consumer confidence.

Our first testing phase took place in December 2014 and revealed that The Screaming O’s SEBS – which is a form of styrene-ethylene-butadiene – and premium silicone are pure, non-toxic and body-safe. You’ve probably heard of silicone, but what in the world is SEBS?

SEBS is a stretchy material used in most of The Screaming O’s cock rings, vibrating cock rings, and many of our non-silicone mini vibes. It’s a quality and safe alternative to squishy (and smelly) jelly material – but they are NOT the same thing! SEBS, as is any material that is not platinum silicone, stainless steel, glass, or coated wood or stone, is slightly porous. But “porous” does not mean “unsafe” or “toxic” when it comes to external-use toys. You just have to keep your sex toys clean, as you would for any item that goes on, in or near your body!

We choose to manufacture much of our product line out of pure SEBS in order to provide quality alternatives for men, women and couples who cannot afford (or do not want) to drop $60+ on a rechargeable cock ring or $90+ clitoral vibe. And they – and everyone else! – deserves body-safe materials and quality construction, don’t you agree?

The initial materials testing was sparked by miscommunication regarding the labeling of our SEBS material, which previously read “SEBS Silicone.” Now that we have hard data proving that no silicone is present, the descriptions have been revised and correctly labeled as pure, non-toxic, body-safe SEBS.

“It’s so exciting to have independent lab results (with third-party validation) to further support our brand because The Screaming O proudly stands behind each of our products, and we want our consumers to feel confident to do the same,” Aumann said. “Plus, we genuinely want everyone on the planet to have better, more satisfying sex and let The Screaming O be their guide – or at least their gateway!”

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The trusted folks at Women’s Health have once again recommended Screaming O products for better, more satisfying sex – this time experts suggest trying a Screaming O pleasure ring (also known as a cock ring) to help keep his erections harder and last longer in bed.

Sexpert Dr. Ava Cadell called out the Screaming O Vibrating Ring to help boost a man’s endurance without making it too obvious that you’re trying to help his erection stay hard and prevent him from coming too soon.

“It’s a flexible ring that stretches to any man’s size,” says Cadell. “You put it at the base of the penis, and it helps him stay harder longer because it traps the blood in his shaft.”

Because this clever sex toy for couples has a mini motor attached, it’s the best sex toy for women who need extra clitoral stimulation during intercourse.

“Some brands like Screaming O have pleasure rings that have vibrators on top to stimulate the clitoris,” says Cadell.

And that little vibrating motor can be the difference between good sex and incredible orgasmic sex – which one would you choose?

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Add some vibrant vibration to your spontaneous sex sessions with ColorPoP Quickies, colorful renditions of our most popular and easy-to-use disposable mini vibes and couples toys! We took your favorite shapes and gave them a brilliant boost with neon hues that inspire the high-voltage sex life that you all deserve!

The ColorPoP Quickie Ling O is a colorful version of the most popular vibrating tongue ring on the market – choose from hot pink and radiant orange – and turns lazy lickers into cunning linguists. That’s right: this disposable oral sex enhancer turns your tongue into a vibrator for a tingly twist to one of the best ways to get (and go) down!

The ColorPoP Quickie Screaming O PLUS is a disposable cock ring for couples that makes it fast and easy to last longer in the bedroom with the added boost of orgasmic potential, now in brilliant blue and radiant orange colors! Strap the stretchy ring around the shaft and balls to help his erection stay hard so he can last longer with a more powerful orgasm at the end! The mini vibrator at the top stimulates her clitoris to help orgasms come easier, and once you’re both spent, simply toss the couples sex toy in the trash. No evidence!

The ColorPoP Quickie Screaming O vibrating ring is the award-winning sex secret that helps couples have better, more satisfying sex, and now you can choose the vibrant vibration that fits your sexual style. The ring is incredibly stretchy and comfortable – not constricting like a cock ring – and keeps the motor in place no matter how wild your romp might get! Choose from hot pink, brilliant blue, radiant orange, or neon green and enjoy the ride!

The ColorPoP Quickie Two-O is a double version of our award-winning Screaming O vibrating ring that couples rave about, now in brilliant blue and neon green. We added a second mini motor at the bottom for two-times the vibration power and to give him special stimulation on and around the perineum, a sensitive pleasure zone often ignored during sex! (It’s hard to reach back there without help from a sex toy, anyway.) The ring is just as stretchy as its single-motor counterpart and is so easy to wear. Just turn it on and get to work!

Everyone loves a good ol’ quickie and now they’ve gotten a little more fun. Try our new disposable ColorPoP Quickie couples sex toys and feel for yourself what all the buzz is about!

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