It’s no secret that self-confidence can have a direct effect on our lives, but did you know that feeling good about yourself can lead to better, more satisfying sex? And even more orgasms?

Multiple studies over the last 15-or-so years suggest that sexual dissatisfaction and even sexual dysfunction are related to a variety of cognitive distractions, which is a fancy term for stuff we dwell on when we should be focusing on something else. One such study, conducted in 2006 at the University of Nevada, found that women who reported higher levels of distraction during sex often also reported negative body image and overall sexual dissatisfaction. Coincidentally, men reported similar distractions, with negative body image and sexual dissatisfaction taking top billing.

This tells us that, while our plumbing and appearance are certainly different, men and women have at least one important thing in common – we aren’t super-hot on how we look and it could be getting in the way of having good sex!

So what can we do about it? Our self-esteem often is the result of years, even decades of social programming and isn’t something we can adjust and change with the flip of a switch. But there are some ways we can slowly undo all of those damaging thoughts and focus instead on treating ourselves with the same kind of love and respect we (hopefully) show our partners. Here are a few suggestions to get started:

1. Be Your Own BFF

How many times per day do you look in the mirror and find something to sneer at? Do you beeline for your thighs and call yourself a jiggle-monster? Do you check out your dick and chuckle at its size? Chances are there’s at least something that catches your eye and causes you to hurl an array of negative thoughts, feelings or blatant bad words at yourself.

Now think of your best friend. Imagine being a fly on his or her bedroom wall and watching the same scene go down. She calls herself a fat cow as she watches her reflection. He sneers with disgust as he flexes his bicep. What do you do? Our instinct might be to tell them to shut the fuck up, stop talking about themselves like that. We might even mention all of the beautiful, strong and hilarious things we love about them just for good measure.

So why not try that for yourself? When those negative feelings creep in and you’re choosing which insults to hurl at your reflection, ask yourself: “Would I let my bestie get away with that?” If the answer’s no, then it’s time to treat yourself the way you’d treat your BFF.

2. Focus on the Good

We all hate aspects of our physical selves and that’s a frank reality. Almost every body part is too fat/soft/small/whatever or too big/thick/straight/whatever and there’s nothing anyone can do to change your mind. So it’s time to bite the bullet and get over yourself.

What DO you like about yourself? (Ask a friend or a loved one if you’re feeling particularly critical.) You might think your lips are too thin or your hair is too frizzy, but have you noticed how soft your skin feels? You also might think your thighs touch too much or your arms are too skinny, but damn your ass looks good in yoga pants. Diffuse all that negative talk with reminders of the body parts and attributes that you’re proud of (and maybe even love!) and truly OWN them. The more you do it, the easier it gets – and you might feel a little better about yourself by the time you’re ready for your next bedroom encounter.

3. Get Real

This is the easiest tip because there’s literally nothing you need to do.

Your partner has eyes. Probably two of them. He or she uses those eyes to look at you and probably already noticed your big ass, knobby knees, crooked penis – whatever it is that you’re obsessing over. And there’s literally nothing you can do about it, save offering him or her a facemask or removing all light bulbs from the room. (Not recommended – safety hazard.)

Sex is raw, carnal and inelegant and there’s no amount of makeup, pillows, positions or dimmer switches that’ll prevent your partner from seeing you – all of you. That body part you hate didn’t send him or her running out the door and there’s a good chance that your partner might even grab it while you go at it. Because it’s HOT. He or she is there to do you and do you good, so get your head in the game and at least a little bit out of the self-loathing clouds so you can focus on the incredible mindful sex you’re about to have.

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The Best Ways to Introduce Sex Toys into Your Relationship

Sex toys have become as common a conversation piece as the weather, but it’s still tricky to ask our partners whether or not they’d be down to try a cock ring or mini vibe. Sex toys can be intimidating, almost scary, to those of us who’ve never dreamed of putting something with a motor near our nether regions. And others associate sex toys with filling some kind of void or fixing an inadequacy in our current sexual situations, which are NOT good feelings for foreplay.

Fortunately, there are ways to side-step the insecurities and taboo that sex toys can bring, and we’ve compiled some of our favorite and most effective tips just for you!

1. Use Your Words
“But we don’t NEED one.” Heard this before? It’s not uncommon for men or women to feel as though sex toys are made to take the place of human interaction and body parts, but almost every sex toy on the planet can be enjoyed as a couple. So keep that in mind when you’re thinking about how to broach the subject and be sure to include your partner in the idea.

“I read that using a vibrator while we have sex can help me orgasm faster! I’d love to try that tonight!”

“I think it’d be super-hot to wear a butt plug next time we’re together – what do you think?”

“Thinking about you using a sex toy makes me so horny – can we try one sometime?”

The most important goal is to make sure your partner understands that sex toys are sexual enhancements – NOT replacements – and that whatever new gadget or gizmo makes it into the bedroom is for both of your pleasures. These kinds of intimate products add sensations and stimulation in ways our fingers and bodies simply can’t, and that’s what makes them so exciting – and SO worth trying.

2. Shop Together
Shopping is a treat for some and a drag to others, but when it comes to picking out something sexy to use together, you HAVE to check out your options as a team! If you or your partner isn’t part of the selection process, one of you will miss out on an important bonding experience that helps set the scene (and the mood) for what might happen later behind closed doors. Maybe she would have liked the blue vibrator instead of the pink. Or maybe he would have wanted to try that cock ring you saw but didn’t buy.

Perusing the shelves of lingerie, cock rings, mini vibes and other sexy playthings gives you both the opportunity to explore and see what catches your eye – you might be surprised at what strikes you!

Plus, shopping together gives you both a chance to learn a little more about each other’s curiosities and kinks, which builds intimacy almost as fast as anticipation. And once you get comfortable shopping for sex gear together, heading to the store (or even simply scrolling through adult shopping sites online) can feel like foreplay without anyone’s clothes even hitting the ground.

3. Start Small
If you’re new to sex toys, or if your partner is open but still not convinced, it might be a good idea to start with the basics before moving onto something next-level. Think about what you’re curious to try together (Anal play? Clit stimulation during doggy style? Maybe a vibrating ring?) and check out your options. Some products are made to be disposable, something you can try once to see if you like it – and then toss if you don’t. Most sex toys have beginner-level versions that are reusable but cost a lot less, which takes some of the pressure off of choosing the perfect one.

Stretchy one-size-fits-most cock rings are low-cost, low-commitment, and typically easier for beginners to try. Bullets, mini vibes, and small hand-held massagers are great starter vibrators for stimulating the clitoris, nipples, testicles, taint – pretty much anywhere that feels sensitive to the touch. Vibrating tongue rings or vibrating penis rings are also fun and inexpensive options for those of us just starting out on our sex toy adventures.

Most of us wouldn’t jump in the deep end before learning to doggy paddle or put the pedal to the metal during a DMV driving test. The same goes for sex toy shopping: ease your way into it and try to keep the pace of your partner. Work your way up to the next level as a team and enjoy the ride along the way!

4. Sharing is Caring
No matter what the package might say, most vibrators can – and SHOULD! – be used on men AND women. Mini vibes are great for her clitoris, but don’t forget that he might like to feel the buzz on his balls during a blowjob. And vibrating rings feel great worn around the penis and testicles, but try wrapping the ring around a finger and touching her nipples or teasing her lips.

CAUTION: This is only safe to do when you and your partner have been tested and declared STI-free, because you’ll inevitably be swapping more than just each other’s sex toys while you’re at it. And please keep in mind that anything that goes in or around your anal area should be washed thoroughly before it goes anywhere near the rest of your body to avoid spreading icky bacteria where you don’t want it! #themoreyouknow

5. Learn by Doing
No one wants to be schooled in the bedroom (even if we could use a tip or three) and that especially applies when sex toys are part of the plan. One of you might know a little more about vibrators than the other, but don’t take on the teacher role just yet – unless that’s part of the fantasy, of course!

Open each toy and read the instructions together. Part of the fun is checking them out, turning them on, and watching each other’s faces change as you experiment with what feels good, what feels “meh,” and what feels “ohmigoddontstop.”

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Sex Outside the Box! – How to Revive a Boring Sex Life

Sex is great and we all love to do it, but sometimes we get stuck in a bedroom rut that no amount of hugging, kissing and humping can get us out of. Fortunately you’re not alone – it can be super-easy to fall into a routine that takes some of the spontaneous excitement out of our favorite intimate past time. So to take some of the pressure off; we’ve compiled a list of quick and easy tip to help freshen up your love life fast. And you can try some of them tonight!

1. Switch Positions
Certain sexual positions feel better than others and oftentimes we tend to stick with the ones that we’re most confident with. Whatever the reason – maybe we like the way our bodies look in doggy style or we know that missionary gives us guaranteed orgasms – doing it the same way over and over can simply leave us wanting more.

We’re not talking trying a pretzel-like yoga position or trying every page out of the Kama Sutra, but even adding a simple position that you don’t usually try can bring enough variety to your sex session to amp up the intimacy.

So think about your routine. Is it missionary, spooning, then finishing on top? Or starting on top and finishing doggy? (Or is it missionary all the way every day?) Change the pattern and incorporate something you typically skip – you never know what a little spontaneity might do for your (or your partner’s) excitement level!

2. Do It Someplace New
We all know that sex typically happens in bed. (We hear some people even sleep there, too!) But what would happen if you laid down a blanket on the bathroom floor or used your (clean) kitchen table as a stage?

There’s something intensely erotic about doing the deed in unconventional places, but that doesn’t mean you have to think TOO far outside of the box. Subtle changes like doing it in front of a mirror or propping yourself up against the kitchen counter can be enough to feel like you’re banging for the first time.

Different surfaces, different sights, different scents – almost every sense gets triggered and inspired when you’re having sex in a new part of the house, so no need to pump yourself up about getting it on in public. That can come later, once you’re a little more comfortable with the idea, but keep in mind that it’s not exactly legal. So don’t tell anyone we told you to try it. [wink wink]

3. Try a Sex Toy
Sex toys are incredible sexual enhancers that can stimulate parts of the body that fingers, hands and other body parts simply can’t. Sex toys are new territory for some people and may be a bit intimidating at first, but fortunately there’s a plethora of products made for couples to enjoy together that enhance the experience for both. (Sex toys can actually make it easier for men and women to have orgasms – sometimes for the very first time!)

Vibrating rings and vibrating erection rings (also known as cock rings) are great for helping prevent premature ejaculation and helping him last longer during sex. The vibrating motor stimulates her clitoris at the same time so she can get closer to orgasm while he stays nice and hard.

Mini vibes and massagers are perfect additions to certain sex positions where some clitoral vibration can help her reach orgasm. Finger vibes are easy to use and don’t get in the way, while wand massagers and bigger vibrators can be a little bulky but help get the job done with much more power.

And there are all kinds of more advanced sex toys you can test out, too, like feather ticklers, anal plugs and sexy bondage gear as seen in Fifty Shades of Grey. So start with some beginner-level toys and work your way up to the big leagues – the journey will be super-fun and super-sexy, plus you and your partner will build even stronger intimacy along the way!

4. Role Play
This is a classic tip, but sometimes roleplaying can feel a little overwhelming to those of us who might be a little shy. So start simple – don’t worry about costumes and don’t try to pretend you’re some flirty cocktail waitress or suave piano man picking up a “stranger” at the bar.

Start by testing out a different technique – maybe you’re usually passive and let your partner make most of the moves. Make your mindset, “I know what I want, and all I want is YOU” and give your partner a thrill. (Just make sure you two talk about the idea first so you’re both on the same page!) Take charge and see how it feels to be a tad dominant.

Or try spending a night together where intercourse isn’t an option. Like you’ve just met and want to save the official “deed” for a special night. This will let you both get creative with pleasuring each other in ways that often can be forgotten when you’re so focused on the final “goal.” Touching, caressing, licking, cuddling – enjoy each other like you’ve only been dating for a week or two and see what kind of spark you might re-ignite.

5. Laugh
We take sex SO SERIOUSLY sometimes, to the point of almost forgetting to have FUN. And there are all kinds of understandable reasons for it – pressure to please, pressure to perform, self-consciousness and insecurity. We’ve all felt at least one (if not all) of those at some point while naked with a partner. But if you both can remember (and communicate) that you’re in it together as a team, you’ll find the stress and anxiety melt away and possibly even replaced with comfort and closeness.

Believe it or not, there’s a good chance that your partner is feeling the same way you are, so once you share what’s on your mind, you can embark on an entirely new journey together. And if something gets bumped, pinched, knocked over or super messy, all you need to do is laugh together. Because it’s not the end of the world; these kinds of snafus and unexpected events often can help make your sexual experiences unique and special – nothing like that fake stuff you see in the movies!

Have suggestions not listed? Share your tips on how to revive a boring sex life!

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Looking for a comfortable erection ring that satisfies your inner love for outer space? The new Orbit Plus vibrating ring features two separate rings for isolated stimulation and constriction and features a sleek white spaceship-inspired design for an even more fun experience.

Made of a softer, more slack SEBS, the Orbit Plus is stretchier for a more comfortable fit and features two separate rings (one for around the shaft and the other for around the testicles) with powerful vibrators attached to each one. This multifaceted design helps prevent premature “blast-off” while massaging her clitoris and his perineum – two of the most sensitive areas on the body for astronomical orgasms every time!

You’ll notice the clitoral stimulator is shaped like a vertical apex; this allows the vibrator to massage not only the clitoris but also the clitoral hood and its surrounding sensitive zones with three warp speeds plus a pulse function. This full-contact design provides the most complete clitoral stimulation possible and accommodates intimate areas of all shapes and sizes!

And for the guys, we designed the penis ring with a smooth interior that lies flush against the skin for a stay-put fit without the typical tight feeling of most cock rings. This comfy fit helps slow blood flow to keep him harder longer while still feeling soft and flexible against delicate skin. And at the base of the testicle ring lies a powerful mini motor that provides instant pleasure to his perineum and stays put thanks to its secure and targeted fit.

You can enjoy the Orbit Plus over and over (it’s reusable!) and have sex with confidence knowing that, as with every Screaming O product, the Orbit Plus’ stretchy material has been independently lab-tested to assure optimum material quality and a quality, body-safe experience.

We had so much fun incorporating our love of geeky spaceship themes into the Orbit Plus while also helping to create an even more efficient erection ring. With a distinctive rocket-like silhouette and multi-functionality, the Orbit Plus is one of The Screaming O’s most fun designs, and we hope you love it, too!

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It’s never been easier to maintain your cunning linguist status with the new SnorkelO oral sex aid, a clever (and cheeky) version of a snorkel that lets you go down – and stay down – without skipping a beat. Its unique Breathe Easy Air Flow System keeps air flowing strong and steady while you keep her satisfied for as long as she needs, and you won’t ever kill the mood by coming up for air!

Plus the SnorkelO comes equipped with a mini motor that, with the touch of a button, sends powerful vibration throughout the mouthpiece to help orgasms come faster and easier. It’s one of the best cunnilingus enhancers on the market and requires barely any effort from you!

Simply place the SnorkelO under the nose with the Easy Breathe Air Flow tubes positioned in each nostril and take a deep breath through the nose to see how it feels. Once it’s comfortably in place, wrap the strap around your head and cinch together to adjust the fit. You’ll be ready go to in an instant and experiment with all kinds of positions and techniques that you’ve always wanted to try together!

And with every SnorkelO purchase comes membership into the official Muff Divers Association, so you and your partner can enjoy an intimate inside joke in between dive sessions.

The SnorkelO’s nosepiece is made of 100% silicone, and as with all Screaming O sex toys has been independently lab-tested to assure optimum material quality and a quality, body-safe experience. So what are you waiting for! Suit up, strap on a SnorkelO, and always be prepared for every muff-dive adventure that comes your way!

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Have you heard of the GO Vibe Ring yet? It’s our newest disposable erection ring made for the most satisfying quickie you’ll ever have! This is the most powerful portable couples ring on the market with an incredible 13,500 RPM motor positioned vertically for better clitoral stimulation, and with a simple flip, you can use the GO to vibrate against your partner’s taint, testicles or any sensitive zone down below. It’s the most versatile vibrating ring ever!

The GO Vibe Ring features an extra-thick SEBS ring for increased tension to help prevent premature ejaculation and prolong pleasure for both partners. Stretched around the penis and testicles, GO should feel tight – but not uncomfortable – as it slows blood flow to keep him hard and ready to… go!

As with all stretchy Screaming O sex toys, GO is made using lab-tested body-safe SEBS to assure a quality, body-safe experience without worrying whether or not your new sex toy might not be up to your high standards. And once the 40-minute battery runs out, simply dispose of it responsibly and see what other Screaming O sex toys for men and women you might like to try. It’s the perfect way to see if you like cock rings without committing to something complicated or expensive.

See how GO can help promote stronger orgasms and more satisfying sex and try one tonight!

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The Screaming O Debuts Devilishly Intense ‘Screamin Demon’ Mini Vibe

Jan. 20, 2015

We’ve officially unleashed the Screamin Demon, so get ready for a devilishly intense time! This new mini vibe features premium silicone “horns” that flutter with vibration and cleverly cradle the clitoris for maximum sensation. And for fans of direct stimulation, the Screamin Demon features a firm pleasure bead between the “horns” at the base of the motor, which transfers the strongest level of vibration right where you want it. However you like it, this compact mini vibe makes it easy to explore and discover your favorite kinds of intimate mischief!

The reviews from our testing phase brought the kind of enthusiasm that made it clear we’ve got a winner – or maybe a sinner? – on our hands, and we can’t wait for you to experience the Screamin Demon for yourselves!

With the push of a button, this compact mini vibe bursts to life with three vibration speeds plus a pulsation mode and sends vibes all the way to the tips of each “horn.” The Screamin Demon is as versatile as it is fun with multiple ways to unleash your inner nymph:

• Tickle and tease the nipples and other sensitive erogenous for flirty foreplay!
• Spread the flexible ‘horns’ wide and run it along his penis for an enhanced blowjob!
• Hold the firm pleasure bead in place during intercourse for extra-intense clitoral stimulation!
• Take it into the bath and enjoy targeted vibration under water!

And as with all of our premium silicone pieces, the Screamin Demon is made of certified silicone to assure a quality, body-safe experience that everyone can afford – because everyone deserves better, more satisfying sex!

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Nov. 25, 2014

It’s officially awards season and The Screaming O has swept three of the biggest awards shows of the year with 12 nominations in pretty much every important category that exists. The annual AVN Awards, O Awards and XBIZ Awards are happening practically back-to-back in January and only honor the most popular brands, products and campaigns of the year – and clearly we did something right with our 2014 debuts!

The Screaming O has been nominated for AVN’s 2015 Best Pleasure Product Manufacturer – Medium, a category reserved for companies whose catalogs are comprised of only top-quality designs made for mass appeal and market success. Our RingO Ranglers stretchy erection rings were nominated for Best Product Line for Men, while the PrimO collection of premium silicone erection rings with 4-function vibrating motors was named for Best Product Line for Women. The winners will be announced Jan. 24 at the Hard Rock Hotel in Las Vegas at the annual “Oscars of porn,” hosted this year by adult stars Alexis Texas and Tommy Pistol.

The Screaming O’s FingO Tips mini vibes were nominated for Outstanding Product for Women by the AVN O Awards, an event dedicated primarily to the pleasure products industry. Also named were the VibrOman all-in-one better sex kit for Outstanding Product for Men, Screaming O Climax Cream for Outstanding Supplement or Enhancement, and the RingO XL larger-sized stretchy erection ring for Outstanding Non-Powered Product. Our colorful promo for the neon-hued ColorPoP collection was nominated for Outstanding Marketing Campaign with thanks to the custom graphics and signage made in-house by our talented design team. The winners will be announced Jan. 22 at the Hard Rock Hotel in Las Vegas during the annual Adult Entertainment Expo.

The Screaming O also took home four nominations for the upcoming XBIZ Awards, scheduled Jan. 15 at the JW Marriot at LA Live in Los Angeles. We were named for Sex Toy Company of the Year, a category reserved for companies who business practices, body of work, and industry reputation exceed all expectations. The ColorPoP Two-O dual-vibrating ring was named for Couples Sex Toy of the Year, while the VibrOman all-in-one better sex kit was named for Male Sex Toy of the Year, and the Scream & Clean Toy Cleaner spray was named for Sensual Accessory Product/Line of the Year.

A dozen nominations – that might be a record for The Screaming O, an honor that we worked incredibly hard for this past year. We put several new processes in place to ensure streamlined development, production and shipping and went way outside the box to come up with designs and styles that served the needs and expectations of our fans. It’s exciting to see our efforts not only were appreciated but also considered award-worthy by our colleagues, and we’d like to thank XBIZ, AVN, and everyone who voted for The Screaming O!

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The brand new My Secret Screaming O is finally here! This super-cute and super-stealth set of mini vibrators looks just like makeup and make it easier than ever for women to travel with their favorite toys! These affordable sex-toys-in-disguise boast powerful vibration with whisper-quiet motors that keep the experience delightfully discreet – we promise that keeping a secret has never felt this good!

It’s no secret that this new 3-piece line is going to become women’s new favorite set of sex toys, thanks to its vibrant pink-and-black color scheme reminiscent of some of the most popular makeup brands on the market. Each clever design is made using only the highest-quality body-safe materials with modern shapes that truly look like ordinary cosmetics…until you turn them on, of course!

My Secret Mascara Vibe features a vibration-magnifying Tingle Tip that amplifies sensations and targets stimulation for direct contact. My Secret Lipstick Vibe features a soft silicone Flex-Tip that smoothly glides across sensitive zones like silk! Both styles feature a three-speed plus pulse motor and 100% waterproof construction so ladies can freshen up in the bathtub or pool.

And the super-compact My Secret Lip Balm buzzes at one strong speed and transfers vibration through a soft and squishy silicone blend tip shaped for ultimate pleasure. With a simple twist-bottom control, this mini vibe is perfect for any-sized purse or pocket.

Whether at home or on the go, women can get that fresh-faced look almost anywhere without anyone batting an eyelash! These covert vibes are portable, compact and travel-friendly, which means making trips through TSA will be a satisfying breeze!

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You’ve finished treatment, confirmed test results, and completed the final round of chemo.

Now what?

Your brain and body feel different – especially if a mastectomy was part of the deal – and now you’re embarking on the next phase of a new life. Building (and boosting) your confidence and sexual sense of self is important, though certainly tough; but fortunately this is your chance to make some exciting new life choices that’ll change the way you enjoy your body!

Body Image
Treating and surviving cancer changes your body in many ways. Your hair might be curly where it was once straight; your skin might feel dry; you may have lost weight; you might have removed a breast (or both). And it’s hard to get used to. But there are gentle and effective exercises, so to speak, that can help you accept – and love – this incarnation and find true beauty in what you might once have considered flaws.

Counselors say one of the biggest issues that women and their partners experience is getting accustomed to a new chest. Whether having had a lumpectomy or mastectomy, women have a hard time seeing past the resulting scars and revealing their new bodies to themselves (in front of a mirror or in photos) and especially to their partners. One trick some psychologists recommend is viewing photographs of women who’ve had similar surgeries, especially if your surgery hasn’t happened yet. There are beautiful artist photography books that showcase the various shapes and forms that women’s bodies take during and after cancer treatment and promote a sense of camaraderie while celebrating having experienced and survived such a life-altering event. Plus you and your partner will be prepared for what to expect, which takes any fear of the unknown out of the picture.

Sex & Masturbation
Post-cancer, women may find that their breasts no longer provide the same pleasure sensations that they once did. Whether because of scarring, surgery or simply the result of negative association, they might need to find new ways to provide the same or similar feelings during intimacy (especially with a partner). Fortunately, this kind of experimentation and exploration is exciting and might end up exposing an entirely new side of your sexual self.

Chemotherapy and hormone treatments affect your natural libido and sexual response, which can make sex physically uncomfortable. But using a vaginal moisturizer every day – just like you would moisturize your skin – can keep the delicate skin in and around your vulva soft and conditioned while a quality water-based or silicone-based lubricant can do wonders in the bedroom. They keep things slick and smooth and take the pressure off you (and your body) so you can focus on the fun at hand.

Sex toys are also a great way to increase sensation and explore new areas of the body, while making the tried-and-true sweet spots feel even better. They enhance pleasure without exhausting hands/fingers/tongues and give you and your partner something new to try together – which facilitates communication and, in turn, a stronger sense of intimacy. Just don’t expect you (or your partner) to figure it out all at once.

Lingerie & Accessories
Lingerie, scarves, even feather boas are fun and sexy accents when you don’t yet feel comfortable “exposing” certain parts of your body. Bralettes are pretty for smaller chests and eliminate the uncomfortable (and sometimes unnecessary) structure, boning and support of a traditional bra. Matching panties and camisoles look sexy and bring attention to the body parts you want accented. And if you feel shy about showing too much skin, a silk or satin nightgown can look flirty and fun – and feel incredible against your skin! – while flowing over scars and areas of the body that you might want to keep covered.

What’s most important is your comfort level and staying true to your needs and desires as you get used to your body and sexuality after cancer. Whether with a partner or with yourself, the key to feeling happy and healthy post-cancer is loving and appreciating the incredible feats that your body is capable of – and feeling excited for what life has in store for you next!

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